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Question: How can i stay motivated to overcome my anorexia?

(Posted by: Nana k on 2010-09-01 19:48:43)

I've been battling anorexia for 3 years now. I don't have a lot of friends because they didn't fit in with my exercise and diet routine. I've been trying to overcome it for a while. I recently started therapy and i'm doing my best but of course the voice in my head persists and shuts out my own sometimes. I have a number of health consequences but I make excuses for each one like "oh this comes from something else " or "it's only mild " I'm trying to stay motivated but I'm having trouble with it, and sometimes i wonder if I even want to get rid of it, what can I do so that I don't lose sight of my goals? sometimes when i remind myself it feels like I'm detached or something, like it doesn't sink in and I don't realize it thanks for all the support

Posted by: Tim on 2010-09-01, 19:49:59

Why get over it? Skinny girls are HOT!

Posted by: HomeChops on 2010-09-01, 19:55:57

Try finding something that will be a daily reminder for you not lose sight of your new goal/ goals you have for your self right. But as cornie as it sounds you need to learn to love yourself for who you and stop judging yourself so badly. There nothing wrong with wanting to be in shape till you go to extremes to do so. Hope this helps & you'll win your battle good luck

Posted by: Marissa C on 2010-09-01, 19:56:45

Remind yourself of the negative consequences of continuing the negative behavior. It is controlling your life, you don't seem to be in denial about that. I know what you mean about the voice in your head, I say talk back to it. That's what I do. When I find myself feeling guilty for eating too much my ED voice will tell me to be ashamed and that I need to work out extra hard. I'll talk back to it (in my head, obviously) and say, oh yes, look at me, I'm so fat (sarcastically because I'm not and my logical side knows it). Hopefully your therapist knows a lot about eating disorders and can help you further with this. If you can, try to identify why you feel the need to restrict your food intake and/ or exercise more at certain times. People with EDs often use these behaviors to control or deal with their emotions.

Posted by: Carol M on 2010-09-01, 19:57:41

That tim guy is an idiot. malnourished girls are not hott. Healthy girls are hott. You need to get a goal in mind and stick to it. I know what you're going through, trust me girl, and you can get over it. You are stronger than anorexia and you need to remember this. Find in within yourself to be the strong beautiful young women you are and beat the voices in your head. You can do this. I did, and so can you.

Posted by: Emily on 2010-09-01, 20:05:44

That tim guy is an asshole. It's hard but you have to try really hard. Try to fix your mental point of veiws like watching inspiration videos telling you your beautiful and such. Think how you can do SO MUCH in life and the world would be missing out on alot if you were gone. You can make a difference in the littlest ways the planet is a better place with you here wether you think so or not. Make goals you want to acheive in life and hang it up on your wall and check everything off that you accomplish make easy goals and unreasonable goals like winning a grammy it helps. It will make you feel like you have so much to live for. Try to make yourself more beautiful on the inside it will draw attention away from you trying to be more beautiful on the outside. Maybe think of trying to start a "new life " of a better you and kind of forget ana was even there kind of like an acting role in your mind. Like the quote we all no Eat to live not live to eat do exactly that do it for yourself and live your life the best you can. Food is like a battle, food is like your weapon to win yourself back (because ana makes us different) (excuse the weird quote I just made it up this second). Try to take up new hobbies maybe learn a new instrument and such or just sing and maybe write some songs about ana and how you feel about her/ it. If you hear the "voice " maybe yell at it or have a conversation with it (not litterally) that way you will win not the ED because you should be the person who control's you not ana she is not your best friend she is only trying to hurt you. They also have videos on youtube of people who recovered so maybe that could help. I just hope I could take my own advice I just gave you and recover too as I'm quite suprised those words even came from me :O. Also check out the website Pretty Thin it's a pro recovery site I use it all the time but today it was frozen so I'm not sure if it will work anymore but give it a try. It is definetly not pro ana no tips and tricks those things get deleted right away

Posted by: Vicky Schmitt on 2010-09-01, 20:14:33

Tim- dying girls are not hot. I don't know what to say. You probably heard all the 'you will be healthier, healthy looks good' thing already. Maybe you should look for pro-recovery sites and forums. They are like pro-ana, except that instead of helping you become disordered, they offer support for recovery. Maybe you could find friends who are also fighting anorexia, motivate each other? But be careful, avoid all the pro-ana that could be 'triggering'